The first step that parents can take is to increase their knowledge regarding certain questions. The answers found in this section may be of some help.

1. Start early speaking of attraction and sexuality

It is better to speak "an hour before" rather than "five minutes late". No exact age can be specified but in reality, as of 3 years old conversation on this topic can begin. When your children ask questions, always answer them adapting the truth to what they want to know and their ability to understand.

2. Speak of sexuality as "good news", in a positive an optimistic manner

Sexuality has to do with our self-esteem and happiness. We are masculine and feminine sexual beings destined to love. Healthy sexuality has to do with our growth and harmonious personal development.

3. speak of sexuality in an integrated manner

Try to prepare the youth for love. Even if they ask a simple question, one should answer in an integrated manner. Speak of the "how" but also of the "why" of sexuality.

4. Communicate frequently and with clarity about their values and expectations regarding sexuality

It should be just one talk about sexuality but rather one should be able to speak of it frequently. Children live in an environment that continually sends them mixed messages regarding human sexuality; frequently, message which contradict the values that you wish to give them. Therefore, it is important that you transmit to them your values with a language that is on a level this is as close as possible to them. Avoiding topics will only provoke an exaggerated curiosity in your children, which will lead them to look for answers from other sources that may be detrimental to them.

5. Give reasons for the values you want to transmit

Adolescents tend to make decisions based on feelings and emotions instead of on reason and on experience. Sometimes they have negative attitudes toward their parents or teachers because they do not understand the messages. In your proposals, try to make it clear that it is important that one prepare himself for handing over his sexuality, meaning when one can assume commitment of a stable family project. 

6. Get closer and become more accessible to your children and most importantly, listen to them

The first phase of communication with one's children is to dedicate time to listen to what they are saying or to interpret their silences in certain situations.  Only from listening can you adapt your responses to the reality of your children. If you listen to them when they are questions of "little importance", they will ask you questions when they have doubts regarding sexuality. If you give honest answers, your children will see you as a source of reliable information regarding these topics.

7. Be coherent

It is important to transmit to your children the fact that you are convinced that they are capable of living sexuality as you are proposing to them. The best way to transmit this is for you to be coherent with that which you have transmitted.

8. Complete the education with accessible information

Have adolescent books, videos and pamphlets available in the home so your children can see them, but without putting pressure on them to read them.

9. Directly participate in your children's school education

You are the head person responsible for the affection-sexual education of your children. The affection-sexual education is never "neutral" and it implies the transmission of values. Just think for example, in the definition of "love" or the decision to be made when complex situations arise such as adolescent pregnancies or sexually transmitted diseases.   Other persons should not be deciding for you when it comes to teaching your children regarding these questions. Find out what they are teaching at the school in the area of affection-sexual education, both the teachers as well as the books. Together with other parents, you can use the democratic channels so that certain contents that you consider to be important are given or not.

10. Turn a wrong decision into an educating opportunity

When you or your children make wrong decisions, a patient, calm, and reasoned conversation can transform the error into an opportunity to then change direction with more conviction.